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Men's Mental Health // Ground Up 093

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Matt D'Avella (1 month ago)
Hope you all like this one! More from Dan here… Men’s groups & stuff: https://evryman.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/danieldoty/
Maxivious (29 days ago)
WTF Matt whats going on here......? Great way to join the hands of the Meetoo psychos. Soon men will be lowered to the standards of women. While society adopts a genderless living. All kinds of creatures roaming the city without a way to identify who is who. Really thought at the least you would steer clear from social politics. But thanks for showing us your true colors.
Akshat Chaturvedi (1 month ago)
+Cody Clips you can use Google Podcasts instead and you can turn off the screen there too
Rocky Desert Flower (1 month ago)
How did you know about the APA considering natural masculinity as "problematic" to say the least? Because you are a professional journalist?
Brandon Alvarez (1 month ago)
+Cody Clips Same here dude.
Cody Clips (1 month ago)
Can you start putting your podcast audio on Spotify? I tend to listen to most podcast up there and I can turn my screen off. I love the podcast just wanna have it in a more convenient place to listen Thanks
MasterMind29 (5 days ago)
Also thanks a ton for talking man things.
MasterMind29 (5 days ago)
Good idea, matt. I see only 3 videos. Will add all the others as well?
Todd Gilligan (7 days ago)
Take away! Without a group you will only reach 35% of potential. Totally agree! That me at the moment
Lliam Bruce (10 days ago)
As a young Male Therapist I see how important it is to speak about things, Its so vital and important that us MEN talk about mental health.. And for us men, we prefer mostly to talk to another dude. I hope I can take away that stigma and shame we carry about opening up through my channel. But, I just wanna say Matt, great piece of content very pleased this is a discussion becoming more common and not hidden away. Guys we need to not be ashamed, we have so much pressure and hate from all directions. Lets use Counselling as a source of self development and not see it as a sign of weakness. Peace out. Lliam. Openup Counselling.
Tyler Guthrie (15 days ago)
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear that conversation!
Andy Scott (17 days ago)
the color correction you do is pulling out too much saturation in the reds, giving people unflattering blue lips
Colin Shelton (23 days ago)
I think Dan's mission at "Evryman" is super interesting. As a gay man, I feel like I see both worlds. I have my "gay" world but often hangout with my straight guys. Often, when hanging with this group, I see this group's disconnect for sharing emotions. I see how it hurts their relationships. Society has constructed this group to suppress their feelings, making it harder to be vulnerable. I totally agree with Dan, sharing is like a practice. Tying it back to how I'm labeled as gay, I feel like it's more the norm for me to share/show emotion. Just wanted to share, since I feel like I have the pleasure of seeing the world from a bit of a different lens. Great job Dan and Matt!
Egor N. (24 days ago)
I LOVE this! These ideas are so relevant to me and to the past couple decades of my life(practically all of it). I feel like Dan explained to me the thoughts I've been having for so long. Wish he opens an Israeli branch as soon as possible. I'll be the first volunteer, for anything.
k 5 (24 days ago)
Absolutely enjoyed it. Thanks for doing this man.
Zeoxin (24 days ago)
What is his ted talk?
Robert Hayes (25 days ago)
For me I find the podcast to long. ( not your fault) I have often thought maybe you could try 30 -40 min podcast. Maybe you would get more positive comments maybe not. Just my opinion do with it what you will
Nathan Wisniewski (27 days ago)
This is just what I needed at the time. Thanks for everything you do
IcazoTheWolf (28 days ago)
You really should have uploaded the whole backlog onto the new channel
Charlie B (30 days ago)
36:45 reminds me Louis C.K. hates against smartphones : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5HbYScltf1c
Barath ML (1 month ago)
Hi Matt, Life goes smoothly and clam. Clearly organized and meaningful but some times in life. We all have this sleepless nights with lots of thoughts running inside our mind. We really don't want it but sadly we can't control it. Everything seems to be very meaningless. We sit in search for answer, solutions, ways but we could not do anything about it. Not just sleepless nights but even the unproductive day time. We try to concentrate on present works but our mind keeps on jumping from this and that thoughts. May be one particular things or about your desire, past love stories, vision, goals, business name for company, humanity, speculation, society, health, color for designing logo, even about sleeping and waking up. These are all stuff running in my mind. Noted I generally don't have these kind of cluttered mind. Some times it happens like now. Why this disconnect happens inbetween our minds? How to put our thought, words and actions in one clean straight line?
Saif Khan (1 month ago)
Thats a great idea.
Miodrag Stanisavljevic (1 month ago)
is that 30 or 50mm lens?
L Chen (1 month ago)
"there is something so liberating about not having to choose every single thing everyday". Totally agree, like the Bandersnatch episode, found it quite stressful
TerraMC YT (1 month ago)
You can really tell that Dan is passionate about this, amazing podcast, really enjoyed it.
Xavier Escalante (1 month ago)
Is that the old school photo of Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson hanging on your wall behind Dan?
Alfred Claimor (1 month ago)
timecodes pls
Aleksandr Zhylinskiy (1 month ago)
What a nice guy, I wish I could have such friend. Great podcast. Keep it up!
Tiffany Rose (1 month ago)
This is an amazing podcast! My father has experienced so much pain throughout his life that no amount of medication or alcohol has been able to keep him numb. It destroys me to see him struggle to find a purpose to live, and I'm overwhelmed by a deep sense of hopelessness that he might attempt suicide again. I've been searching for ways to help him, help himself; but there seems to be few books or resources out there that acknowledge the true emotional needs of a grown man or offers sound advice and affective help. I'm going to share this podcast with my dad and I hope that he will be receptive to what it offers. <3 I want him to live a long and happy healthy life that leaves him feeling fulfilled, --not alone and dead in a ditch with a belly full of alcohol.
E Kawarimono (1 month ago)
Recommend the Scene on Radio podcast series entitled Men.
TRTCreations (1 month ago)
Loved this podcast. Even though I’m not a man, I found that this content reaches females too. As a fellow creative, I found all of your podcasts very helpful. What’s funny is that most of the motivational quotes I hear from this show about achieving your goals and following your dreams etc. are quotes and ideas that I already know. However; there’s something about hearing you and all of your guests reiterate those ideas that keeps drawing me back to your podcasts. With all that being said, Thank you!
Out Chillin Media (1 month ago)
Simply INCREDIBLE podcast
TJ Somethinornothin (1 month ago)
Matt, you probably know this already, but that link to ground up show is not working. This was a great podcast. I found camaraderie in a men's chorus when I moved (at 52) to a new town half-way across the world. There's a special magic to work with a diverse group of men towards a common goal, in my case an artistic expression. Keep up the great work!
Joseph McCrossan (1 month ago)
This was so interesting to listen to this and I learnt a lot
Joseph McCrossan (1 month ago)
Went to try and sub to your new channel but it's telling me that the channel can not be found =/
Larkin Jackson (1 month ago)
Ever since the New Year your channel has not shown up in my sub feed. I hit the Bell... Missed you sir.
The Questioner (1 month ago)
I'm a girl and I totally support this. A lot of guys I know are not expressive, as if they were robots, and when they do they are shy about it. Please, be you.
Nerd (1 month ago)
Good choice to move the ground up show to another channel. :) Both are good, but they are very different and it is weird getting the ground up videos in my sub feed when I am used to your other videos. Also when you see some of the other youtube greats this is what they do. And look at big companies that brand out for every product. Smart. :)
josh (1 month ago)
I’m trying to work on myself and heal from the pain others have caused me I’m not perfect myself but I know I’m a good person and I’m just staying strong 🙏🏽❤️
Mandy Ashley (1 month ago)
This was amazing. I love that, without being a filmmaker, a digital artist, musician or a guy in this industry or some awesome motivational mentor, I as a female hairstylist can take away a monumental amount of information and inspiration from your podcasts and the amazing people who have arrived to share this knowledge. Thank you, Matt. Ps. If you know a womens version of this man that would be amazing! Haha
Abhay Shirole (1 month ago)
I usually get laughed at when I talk about mental health issues, especially with other men. I am so happy to see this!
Victoria Argañaras (1 month ago)
I just wished your podcasts could have Spanish subtitles. I want to share them but I'm the only only one that speak English fluently in my group of friends. I hope in the future it could be possible. Love your content!
Samuel Castro (1 month ago)
Hey dude I am happy to watch all your vids really I enjoy a lot and at the same time I improve my English language Skill. Viejo mucha gracias!!! Sigue hacia adelante. Hope you can understand me in spanish.
Jacob Meen (1 month ago)
I'm trying so hard to fight toxic masculinity within my friendship group! I'm not doing much but I make a lot of uncomfortable conversation and then ask why it's so bad. Every little thing helps even if I get shit for it lmao. Hopefully the future is so much better for mens emotions cause I think emotions get so much shit for just existing when they're inevitable
Annlaug Maria Tolo (1 month ago)
Ti old at 35?!35 is late in life?? No way! I've needed every year until now to become even half able to really do the cool stuff! Learning skills, learning from life: it takes time! At 35/40we are in our skill and life prime. I belive the most important years in life are the years between 40 and 60. During this time we are physically maybe still young enough to enjoy life and move and have fun and yet we are old enough to hopefully have learnt a lot from life.
Akshay M (1 month ago)
Hey Matt.. I have fallen in love with yr vloggs...i immediately subscribed 👋....u r an inspiration 💙.. thumbs up , from Delhi (India)💖💖
Jonathan Poon (1 month ago)
only noticed the framed Dwayne Johnson picture after 39 mins, i guess that means the video was good
Alec Butler (1 month ago)
This video reminded me of how some of us run from our problems and even our emotions when its not healthy. A lot of us run from self disclosure because really it is scary to disclose and at times its a lot easier to just let it fester and not do anything about it.
Amy (29 days ago)
Alec Butler Seeing your comment made me think about those who use drugs or alcohol to numb their feelings/emotions. I myself am not a user or addict, but I do try to hold compassion for those who have been down that road. Life isn’t easy, especially if you bring mental illness into the mix as it heightens your emotional state sometimes
Ranek Inpinewoods (1 month ago)
What are you a FAAAAAAAG!?
Bastian S. (1 month ago)
out of all the podcasts i listen to, jesus christ, this is my favourite! amazing talks :)
June Twenty (1 month ago)
<3
László Hajba (1 month ago)
Here is a very specific view of men's health and touch deprivation which might be an interesting read for both straight and gay men: https://medium.com/@remakingmanhood/touch-isolation-how-homophobia-has-robbed-all-men-of-touch-239987952f16
Simon Leon (1 month ago)
Matt are you going to move all the podcast overthere even those you already posted here?
Jay Jay Jay (1 month ago)
Excellent podcast and subject matter. Big thumbs up.
Shruthi Rao (1 month ago)
First thing I loved your channel is there is noooooooooo advertisement♥️😀😀😂👍
Devil's Advocate (1 month ago)
I am 22 and turning 23 this year. I stopped giving a shit on the thoughts negative self-image early in life. Hope it turns out great.
Colin Webb (1 month ago)
Such an important topic. Thank you for making this.
J J (1 month ago)
american culture is so closed. Western culture in general is closed. not much interaction with neighbors or families. No one cares for others much. Just very closed to seek help and give help. We need to go back to our basic human instincts and reach out to people to ask for help and give help.
Living Image (1 month ago)
This was an important episode for me. Never was in touch with my emotions but seeing groups like this exist makes me want to change. Might be seeing myself in one of these soon. Thanks Matt and thanks to your guest Dan.
Samm Sidney (1 month ago)
What Microphones does he use for the podcasts? Amazon Link anybody?
Samm Sidney (1 month ago)
+Colby Spring-Morash thank you very much bro.
Colby Spring-Morash (1 month ago)
Shure SM7B Dynamic Microphone
Joe Stois (1 month ago)
This was fantastic. Something that really captivated me and aligned with what I have going on right now. Much appreciated.
Nikita Koynov (1 month ago)
15:00
Alone at Home (1 month ago)
If you suffer from any mental barriers hopefully this can help at least one person. https://tinyurl.com/y8uvz6nd
Alfaaz Kurban (1 month ago)
Like your contents! Keep the good work up it is very interesting!
Daniel_81 (1 month ago)
to be honest ....I have never felt comfortable in a group of men....I feel way more easy when women are around as they are often more open and less competitive than men...plus straight men just do not share their emotions or feelings very willingly, and as a gay men I often felt cut out from their "world"...
jz4461 (5 days ago)
Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover? What you describe is a key signal of being a Nice Guy. It's a great book.
NPC 01001011 (27 days ago)
Unless they're feminist
Thinking of A Name (1 month ago)
Daniel_81 what do u mean by exceptions?
Daniel_81 (1 month ago)
+Thinking of A Name I can understand from where you are coming from. I guess different upbringings, different experiences and a different mind/body set, make such a huge difference in the way we perceive ouselves and the others. I have always felt prone to communicate and embrace the other ....and often men, gay and straight men alike, seem not equipped to operate in this way...I also believe that there are for sure plenty of exceptions :-). All the best man!
Thinking of A Name (1 month ago)
Daniel_81 I’ve always felt u comfortable around guys, always assume one guy wants to fight, this is my social anxiety lmao, I always have to be ready to fight if there’s ever a bigger guy around, taller or musclier and I’m instantly on the defensive. I can feel fine in a group of friends obviously. But I’ve never been comfortable around girls, now this is coming from a guy who had no mother and was thrown Into boys only schools since 10, so u can understand why I wouldn’t be comfortable.
Phil Schultz (1 month ago)
Such a great topic. I lost it when I found out he’s from North Dakota. That’s where I’m living now!
Ryan Finkbiner (1 month ago)
This one makes me uncomfortable and likely for the very reason it's been recorded. *deep cleansing breaths*
Stewart Hines (1 month ago)
Gotta say, I love that you say "ground up show" and "ground up show" pops onto the screen in the bottom left as you speak it. Well done.
I'm bias, but this is my favorite podcast so far!
josh (1 month ago)
Depression Talks With Immanuel true same we should have a phone call about it are you from the uk?
+josh Mental health is a subject that's VERY close to my heart. So anytime it's talked about, I'm in favor of it
josh (1 month ago)
Depression Talks With Immanuel why are you bias ?
Chris Ofsthun (1 month ago)
WUT... YES!
Scared Folks (1 month ago)
I just watched this guy on JRE yesterday, what a coincidence! Opening up about my Mental Health has been very hard but has helped me a lot to hear other people are going through the same thing and wanted to share it as well but were to afraid to mention it. Men aren't really allowed to be depressed or anxious in our society but that's not fair. Its very humbling when you see how many men have mental health issues and we're not as alone as we may think we are.
Beyond My List (1 month ago)
Thank you for talking about mental health!
Alex Hansen (1 month ago)
You're looking buff, Matt. No homo.
Alexis Claudio (1 month ago)
I watch all of your videos Matt, they are all so Inspirational, educational & entertaining. Thank you Matt!
Shreyas Raghavan (1 month ago)
Omg do till the 100th podcast here and then switch over to the new channel😂 (adding to the confusion ;)
Jason Thompson (1 month ago)
Fuuuuuuuuuu... Why are the podcast topics always on time Matt!!! 😁👊🏽💯
Robert Kinski (1 month ago)
I'm writing this comment in the half of this podcast, crying like a baby understanding the background of the state that I am in right now. Perfect timing Matt, it opened my eyes. I suppose it's time to open my mouth now. Thanks for great work.
Benji Simson (1 month ago)
+Robert Kinski you've got this g <3
Robert Kinski (1 month ago)
It ended up in my fiance telling me that she loves me but she's not sure whether she wants to stay with me. Fuck this is a great start of the year...
Mohamed Omar (1 month ago)
I love your podcast but I had to cut this ep off early, it was overtly heteronormative.
Kristen Lionheart (1 month ago)
I wish all YouTubers were as organized as yours. Many of my favorite YouTubers post everything on the same channel, and frankly, I don't care about their families or children. I just want to see their organization tips.
Mateusz Kazberuk (1 month ago)
What a fantastic episode! Great insight to our issue, brilliant ideas and such a good flow in your conversation this time! Thank you for making it! It brang a lot of thoughts in to my mind. I have also noticed what I have to work on and how I can help in my community.
Mtg Csual (1 month ago)
You look so bored bro..haha
Temuun D (1 month ago)
Dan, you are more the welcome to come here to Mongolia!!!
Marga (1 month ago)
I'm sooo glad to see such a video up! I always encourage the men in my life to talk about how they feel and try to provide a safe space for that (without pushing of course). It helps so much and I hope a mentality like this spreads more and more.
TheSquadsGoalsYT (1 month ago)
why am I subscribed to you, I have never watched this channel before.
Hide Myass (1 month ago)
TheSquadsGoalsYT bye
WhenIGoCrazy0 (1 month ago)
What ? Lol thts crazy 😂😂😂
Mahmoud Tokura (1 month ago)
Wow, is about time some said this things. When i lost my daughter, people told me that my wife had more right to grief than i did so i should forget my pain and "be there for her", when all i really wanted to do was sit in corner and cry. The world is so confusing for men these days. So much Flipping expectations from everyone around us. Wife expectations, mother expectations living up to dads idea of what a man should be. Having to be chivalrous all the fucking time is so tiring. Dealing with a partner that believes her issues are more important than yours The fear of being called lazy. The fear of walking away from a marriage that some of us hate because we don't want to be known as the "father that walked out" or "see our kids hurt". Every fucking thing is a mans fault. And who the fuck decided what it means to be a "real man" anyway. I cant even talk about my issues without it devolving into a "gender slug-fest", it always ends with "Women have it worse". Rather than viewing every fucking thing trough the gender lens, how about we view everything through the humanize lens. If a person is hurting (Man or Woman) just help that person. Don't wait until he or she becomes suicidal before their issues become important.
Paul LeMay (1 month ago)
Thank you for sharing another great podcast. 😎🇨🇦❄️
Takeshi Kovacs (1 month ago)
Its really refreshing to find quality content like this on youtube between all the clickbait videos which are exactly 10 minutes long to get some revenue. Its like most people dont even try anymore and dont do the videos because they love what they do, but to get a few bucks. Thanks for beeing you.
*I think one day you'll find that you're the hero you've been looking for. ×*
Tzvi Shalmiev (1 month ago)
Enlightening podcast, thanks for both of you. *thumbsup*
Cecily Erker (1 month ago)
A lot of men are deeply traumatized from unhealthy childhood family dynamics and need most of their adulthood to unpack it and heal from it if they even gain awareness of it. If you don’t gain awareness of it and heal it from within, you will perpetuate the abuse that was inflicted on you when you couldn’t defend yourself. Don’t feel bad for being a man, just take full responsibility for your actions and their consequences. You must live and love authentically and let go of the fear of loss that compels you to lie or hide.
Dream Scorcher (1 month ago)
Love your comment. It's lack of education and understanding that makes people never accept that they have something wrong about themselves that prevents them from healing themselves and hence the trauma continues through generations.
Sallie Mae (1 month ago)
Good morning Matt..BTW since the topic is mental health.If any man or a woman becomes a threat to themselves or others send them to the nearest emergency room.The hotline number for suicide prevention is 1800-273-8255..If this retreat does not help them and they start drinking or using drugs we have Substance Abuse Rehab program too.Lot of facilities offered NA and AA meetings.i happened to work in the above facilities.If i am your counselor i will ask why do you drink alcohol or use drugs?What are your several issues why you drink or use drugs.?What are the healthy ways that you could benefit besides using drugs/alcohol?
Haylz Aldz (1 month ago)
My most favourite podcast episode by far!! Just awesome content and ideas!!!
Beauty Beholder (1 month ago)
This is such an incredibly important topic. I wish there’s one for women as well because contrary to believe, women are not that great at expressing ourselves in an appropriate and effective way either. We also avoid talking about how we feel because we are so afraid of hurting other people’s feelings. I also feel that there’s not enough sharing between the sexes that we often misunderstand each other. Understanding men really helped me in understanding the other half. Great show, Matt!
Single Larity (1 month ago)
Mental health is a difficult subject. Understanding women is also needed. My partner is going thru a problematic time. She believes she is pregnant it has become so bad she has been admitted to psych wards because of it. Several doctors in the clinics after tests telling her she is negative for pregnancy. Have to get lawyers involved to get her out of there but In her mind she believes she is pregnant. And I am powerless to get her help. What does a man do in this situation. I cant force her to see more doctors and i cant force them to treat her
Mandy Ashley (1 month ago)
Yes I totally agree!
The REAPER Blog (1 month ago)
as an audio person I can't take my eyes off the microphone. I've never seen an SM7B without filter switches on the back. That is really strange to see. BTW there are lots of low frequency thumps that are distracting
Paulooping (1 month ago)
Thanks matt for this video!
Ruben Medel (1 month ago)
This episode was great!! This actually seems like the mastermind groups. Thanks Matt!! I'm really interested on create one of this type of groups.
karma (1 month ago)
Mainstream vs Matt D'Avella
Ahmed Khames (1 month ago)
"You know?" . Love the content Matt "you know" I subscribed this morning "you know". JK I really appreciate Dan and his work.
Jennie M (1 month ago)
I think this has been my favorite episode that I've watched so far. Really important information and articulated very well.
Katie Nemaric (1 month ago)
Hey Matt, if you have time (I know you are v busy) you could consider editing together the highlights of all your previous episodes and call them Espresso Episodes or something haha! That way you can upload all your original previous content to the new Ground Up channel. But mainly, it would be good because I subscribed to you after you had already made 70 episodes and although I don't have heaps of time to go watch them all, I would love to see highlights of them in 70 different episodes. It could also be good for you because you can get content on the channel without production-time-investment only editing time. Probs could help your algorithm with uploads, plus the newer subscribers won't have seen the content yet, like me. Would love highlights!! Love from Melb, Australia
shaunak deshpande (1 month ago)
Agreed!
Brady Wade (1 month ago)
My dream would be to star on this podcast one day. ✊
Cody Clips (1 month ago)
Can you start putting your podcast audio on Spotify? I tend to listen to most podcast up there and I can turn my screen off. I love the podcast just wanna have it in a more convenient place to listen Thanks
Dara Gm (1 month ago)
https://open.spotify.com/show/6vesMIAKe4rv2MpvTvkWPg?nd=1
Cody Clips (1 month ago)
+Ilan Michel link?
Cody Clips (1 month ago)
+Dara Gm link?
Ilan Michel (1 month ago)
Cody Clips it is on spotify
Dara Gm (1 month ago)
Cody Clips it is on Spotify actually! I listen there a lot of the time.
What a great conversation, you guys are so honest and real.
Phu Duong (1 month ago)
Get Jordan B Peterson
Axel Monticelli (1 month ago)
I like Peterson, but I'm not sure he would fit well in Matt's podcast. Besides, he's too damn controversial nowadays.
food supply (1 month ago)
Ew no :D
Luis Mota (1 month ago)
I love all of your videos, thank you! Great job always!

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