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Please watch: "The ONE Thing Every Christian Should Be Doing But Most Are NOT!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slK6HI8tUTY --~-- HOOK: This hole and this little red thing inside this hole gets us in more trouble than any other part of our body. So, how do we control it? That’s what we’re gonna talk about today. INTRODUCTION: Hey what’s up everyone welcome back to the BEAT. Today we are talking about how to control our mouth (the same advice goes for our communication on Facebook too). And in James 3 the Bible gives us some very practical advice on how to tame our tongue. #1 – Be AWARE of the PITFALLS James says we ALL stumble in MANY ways and ANYONE who says they are not at fault is PERFECT. The reason why we ALL struggle with our mouth is because there are so many different ways we can sin with our tongue. Slander, gossip, lie, complaining, critical spirit, cursing, exaggerate, discourage, curse, not following through, dirty jokes, outbursts of anger (aka “go off on folk”), half-truths, sarcasm, boasting, complaining, etc. And so James says because there are so many ways we can STUMBLE we should be mindful of how our mouths can be used to tear someone down. #2 – Be INTENTIONAL and Speak positivity – Notice here by using the illustration of a horse to illustrate how something small can a very to make a HUGE positive impact. One of the reasons why this is so critical is because when you praise and encourage people you earn the right to correct them when they are wrong. TRUTH is best received when TIME is invested and TRUST is established and one of the ways of doing this is to be known as an encourager; someone who makes small deposits into people’s lives over time by encouraging them, complimenting them, offering constructive criticism designed to make them a better person and add value to them. And so for many of us because it’s not our nature we need to be INTENTIONAL about speaking LIFE into other people’s lives. #3 – Be CAUTIOUS and THINK before you SPEAK – James says, “consider” or “think about” the fire you could start simply by not filtering what comes in your mind so that it doesn’t come out of your mouth. (Some people have no filter between their mind and their mouth.) I want to encourage you to use this acronym on a daily basis (maybe even a minute by minute basis depending on how bad it is) before you prepare to blast this person with venom. This acronym alone will help many of your relationships thrive. T – Is it TRUE? H – Is it HELPFUL? I – Is it INSPIRING N – Is it NECESSARY? K – Is it KIND? Just this acronym alone will save us a world of trouble in our relationships. #4 – BE GENTLE and Check your Tone – v. 6 – James says here our tongue has the power to “stain the whole body” (ESV) – Wedding dress Illustration: Many of us have really good things to say but it’s never received by others because what we’re saying is not packaged right. People will hardly notice the dress because their focus will be on the stain. Prov. 15:1 – “A soft answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Our presentation immediately turns people off so that people don’t receive what we’re saying.
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Romanicvs Jones (5 days ago)
I must say this is one of my biggest weaknesses.
RedGhost Outdoors (6 days ago)
I clicked on this because I need help taming my tongue. It has hurt some feelings of lately. Not knowing the implications that it may have on someone. Even though I say I’m sorry, and they may forgive me. These people will never forget. Now I can’t help but think about what I said every time I see these people. I guess this is god showing me humility.
Ben Sommer (12 days ago)
“This little hole” 😆
Patricia Romanowski (16 days ago)
So wonderful, your THINK. Going to listen again.
Lea D (1 month ago)
I really needed to hear this. Thank you
Kurt Swensen (2 months ago)
I say some pretty bad stuff sometimes and I need to stop.
pawiks linohon (2 months ago)
.cowboy up!
Jose Dopwell (2 months ago)
As long as we live in this world and in the flesh this will ALWAYS be a struggle. We're instructed to speak the truth IN LOVE. It's easy to thoughtlessly say true things to another person but that's like doing neurosurgery with a sledge hammer--- and no anesthesia. Been there done that more times than l care to count. Then the other person is offended and the opportunity to help them is squandered. I've been on both sides of this equation. It's certainly easier to dish out the harshness than it is to receive it. The devil uses unkindness to claim multiple victims and bring discord to the body of Christ. We have to remember who the REAL ENEMY is. We are members one of another and Jesus said to do unto others as we'd want them to do to us. It takes self-control to think through not only WHAT l plan to say but HOW l'm going to say it. Forgiving one another is crucial in this area. Because we ALL make MANY mistakes. Love keeps no record of wrongs. I've had some verbal brawls with brothers in the past who are now some of my best and closest friends in Christ. We laugh about those arguments now because we've forgiven each other and we've matured by the grace of God.
Brenda Padro (2 months ago)
Lord help us!
LORENCE (2 months ago)
GOD BLESS YOU ALLEN! I really really needed to hear this. I realize this is one of the BIGGEST sins that I struggle with. And it is the cause of a lot of my relationship problems. I believe it comes from the family I grew up in, where everyone just screamed at each other and belittled one another. It truly was toxic, and I subconsciously picked it up. NOT an excuse, but it helps to understand why I am the way I am. I will pray that God will help me through this with the Holy Spirit. Thank you so much Allen!
Hansmeister Schulz (2 months ago)
I remember hearing years ago that "the mouth is made for two purposes, eating and praising God!" And Yes, one can praise God while kissing the one He has placed our lives. Praise Jesus, He is coming soon.
Missing Link Revelations (2 months ago)
I was really blessed by what you shared. Right on time. Thank you very much.
Da General (2 months ago)
Hey Allen. Please can you do teaching on mental health? thank you an God continue to bless you.
Wesley Hult (3 months ago)
I've realized the more my Christian faith progresses, the less interesting I've become - I don't have much to talk about anymore. I can't believe how much smack I used to say.
Kimberly Edwards (3 months ago)
I just choose to be silent
kjack3211 (3 months ago)
This is the major thing I struggle with.This video was for me. It was posted on my birthday 🎂 October 20th
Mo Webster (4 months ago)
THIS IS ME 🙌🏽... I have been praying about my mouth, my tone and jokes. It is not by chance that I scrolled and found this.
Damarise Fozao (4 months ago)
Thank you so much Allan. I have a huge problem controlling my mouth especially when I'm upset. Could you do a video about how to calm down anger? Thanks again.
Isaiah Askew (4 months ago)
False, sexual organs get you in more trouble because God puts hormones in us that we can’t remove and against our will desire sex. I can control my mouth.... i can control my sexual desire too but it takes my whole being. Its not the same
Helen Breakiron (5 months ago)
Oh my! I really need help with this!!!
Tyra Rice (5 months ago)
Wow..directly after i pray in the morning i need to listen to this video...usually I'm an encouraging person but after listening to this I see that i need to tweek MANY areas in my life✨
seeker for gods heart (6 months ago)
I love your videos!! God is Definitely using u!! Praise God! I curse alot!!!
Haze Morris (6 months ago)
Thank you SO much for this acronym! I will carry this with me..
Miss T (7 months ago)
What if our friends and us use roasting as like a love language? I mean we only pick on each other because we know we’re only teasing and we treat everyone else respectfully. After hearing this once I tried to treat my very best friend with respect and she ended up crying thinking she had done something wrong.
Jonah Hall (8 months ago)
Thank u soooo much
gennyarod329 (9 months ago)
Our mouth is powerful it has the power to speak life or death. I definitely need to tame my mouth and learn to control it. Please pray for me 🙏🙏🙏
Sandy239 b (9 months ago)
My biggest issue, quick to talk 😲 without thinking first ...great advice brother! 😃 I'll try to remember and enforce this...
Kelly Daunis (5 months ago)
I'm the same way. God bless. 😊
Dobrev Dobrev (9 months ago)
Danzel? Washington? Is that you???
juanita fuentez (9 months ago)
amen a tongue that can be twisted to say evil things thank you Jesus thank you sir for putting this on YouTube I have found it very useful I'm going to stop watching this and saying it every day and I have felt free to share it on Facebook if you ever give out pamphlets please let me know I am on Facebook myself under my name Juanita Fuentez thank you Hallelujah God bless amen
Kathy B Good (10 months ago)
thank you very much for this, so helpful. And thank you for the notes below so I can print them out.
L J (10 months ago)
He looks like Denzel Washington
Tendai Chifamba (10 months ago)
My mouth is my biggest stumbling block wish i can tame it.thanks for the advice
Babs Skett (11 months ago)
Great video. All good advice to remember. . How we need help with this area, for sure.
ade doyin (11 months ago)
and whats app I feel like Allen talking me on this one lol
Clay Creations (1 year ago)
Wow thank you for this video your awesome !!
monty turner (1 year ago)
Can I ask you a question mrs.parr, when you listen to musics/videos that have cursing in,as a Christian is it ok to listen to it even if it doesn't effect you?
Michelle Sims (1 year ago)
I hate my temper. 😞
Mary Rodriguez (1 year ago)
Thanks for posting this brother.  I really needed to be reminded of what the Word of God says about the tongue!  I have a lot of hard work ahead of me but I want to change.  Thanks again for being a blessing!
Kirk Brown (1 year ago)
The real problem is more than our tongues but our minds. Sin starts in the mind, I guarantee you that if we teach our minds on the word of God more likely most things we say will be in line with his words. Alot of times we say thinks because the movies we watch, the music we listen to. Even the foods we eat can affect our minds. Most people I believe is easily influence, in this case try and hang out with good people mostly. But most importantly pray because without prayers nothing that we do will make sense.
family lowe (1 year ago)
Amen! Please, God, help me control my tongue! Keep this word in the forefront of my thoughts in my communications.
Shirley Silus (1 year ago)
Thank you for your videos Mr Parr. I am praying God will continue to work in my heart in this area. I grew up in a very verbally abusive home and I catch myself going in that direction with my own husband and children. Due to not dealing with things right away or let my frustrations build up, I deal with it in anger and rage. And unfortunately my beautiful children get the brunt of it.
Andrew (7 months ago)
Matthew 23:8-10 "[8] But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren. [9] And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven. [10] Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ."
Shirley S (1 year ago)
Beautifully said.
Vanessa Catuzzi (1 year ago)
This was very encouraging. Thank you
Mystique Lou (1 year ago)
Yip these made my life soooo miserable the last years i broke down ...its terrible what people can do on social media
Robert S. (1 year ago)
I dont even think i can communicate without humor...
Issis Morales (1 year ago)
I need to keep my smart ass shut 😂 I’m too sarcastic and sassy and I’m getting into too much trouble.
POSITIVE VIBES (1 year ago)
This was truly amazing. Awesome advice to live by ✨🙌🏽✨
L.siipunii Lana (1 year ago)
Please explain me on did Jesus go to hell
Jose Dopwell (1 year ago)
I will definitely watch this video repeatedly. Well explained (i.e., good use of YOUR tongue!!) and practical. I'm going to take the THINK acronym and write it down both in card and poster size so I can remind myself about the way to speak wisely. I'm also going to study my Heavenly Father's word about the pitfalls of an untamed tongue vs. the benefits a godly one. Thank you for this excellent, straightforward teaching and advice. Especially appropriate for an age when far too often I/we put my/our thoughts out on blast without considering the consequences, both in this life and eternally.
Jonathan Vallery (1 year ago)
I. Love to her what you have to say about manson. An eaststar
I am being murdered right now these people keep cutting snd stabbing my tounge I need help fast I.sm dying they keep cutting mytounge cursrss help me!! Rhonda Pickett- Jackson, MS Dawn BoydNateea Hodges Sheila Brown- Lansing, MI roaming Knives
IrishPete 17 (1 year ago)
00:08 not so sure about that.
Tramaine Bennett (6 months ago)
what was it?
Tanya Onysko (1 year ago)
Esobel Jaen (1 year ago)
Amen thanks bro
Gladys Ethics (1 year ago)
Not sure how i got here but im happy i did! You have a new subscriber😊
Nicki Vlachou (1 year ago)
Your videos are awesome!! I like them especally because they are so short.
Mikahel (1 year ago)
I love your shit!
Tramaine Bennett (6 months ago)
language lol
Dorothea Dixon (1 year ago)
I agree and disagree. We live in an age where people hold their feelings on their shoulders. People choose to remember what they want to remember about you. There have been times where what a person has said to me has really hurt me at the time BUT God has turned it around for my good. There have been times when I say an encouraging word to someone, and he or she just throws it down. I think that sometimes, it also has to do with how the other person is receiving what you say. Yes, I agree that we should be gentle, BUT that does NOT guarantee that the person still not get offended. These days, people are easily offended by even the slightest compliment.
Kirk Brown (1 year ago)
Dorothea Dixon when we speak we should speak in love, if someone gets offended there's nothing you can really do about that.
Valentina Stavreski (1 year ago)
Dorothea Dixon Agree with you. Remember we are in the last days and we are warned people will become like this. Keep doing what you are doing as it's the right thing even if you are not appreciated. Jesus know your heart and sees everything. He wilk reward you. ☺
papermason (1 year ago)
I'm really sad and discouraged, I'm trying so hard.
papermason (1 year ago)
I can't seem to get even a second before I shoot out of my pie-hole.
Gail Kathleen (1 year ago)
This channel is AWESOME !!!! Thank you ..I can learn so much from your videos ....
Dolly Blessed (1 year ago)
😓😓😓😓😥😥😥😥😥😥 Dissapointed with my life... Clearly need to change
Andrew (7 months ago)
Well, I encourage you to do so then.
Tempo lee (1 year ago)
Everyone keep me in your prayers! I lost my wife and son😢
Riki Tiu (10 days ago)
God bless bro
Khanverz z (1 year ago)
Its ok, jesus is there his love is eternal
Valentina Stavreski (1 year ago)
Curt lee I am very sorry for your loss. I pray Jesus is holding you through this very difficult time. I cannot imagine what you are going through but reach out to the Lord only he can comfort you. I trust your wife and son are saved and are resting peacefully with him. Xxx
Jerry Sineath (1 year ago)
Thank you so much!!!! Your videos are such a blessing.
Samuel Azodo (1 year ago)
Great video man! Really want to know if humorous sarcasm is bad? The type of sarcasm the likes of Steve Harvey would use.
MindDrift (1 year ago)
Thank you Denzel Washington, all of your videos really help me.
Sandy239 b (9 months ago)
I was going to say the same about DW looks...lol
John Doe (1 year ago)
MindDrift i was looking for this
Kenny Williams (1 year ago)
Thank you for serving and sharing.
Jane Shoufany (1 year ago)
I actually love you
Thank you Jane! God bless and thanks so much for watching.
Squishy123 (1 year ago)
THANK YOU SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!!! Now I can finally control my big mouth and be a positive friend to all. Props to you :) :) :)
Guava Pastries (1 year ago)
Making dirty jokes and being sarcastic is bad?? Whoops.
Tm Russell (1 year ago)
Mya Visbal (1 year ago)
i hate the way im too chatty
Kenny Chan (4 months ago)
Gloria Cannady (1 year ago)
Mya Visbal introverts appreciate you ❤
ThePisceanLion (1 year ago)
I'm such a dick and so blunt and I try so hard not to be that way. It's just the word's fly out of my mouth before I have a chance to think about it. I've said some things that were so rude that it makes my head hurt thinking about it.
ThePisceanLion (1 year ago)
THE BEAT by Allen Parr well said
Hey King, we all have. The great thing is that God has grace and usually the people around us do as well. The key is not to focus on your past, focus on how you can make changes to improve moving forward.
Goddess Love (1 year ago)
Amen! The tongue is small, but is quick to do damage. Be quick to listen, and slow to speak!
balshgracie (1 year ago)
What you say is true Allan and that think us a great reminder der...buuuttt...the real soultion to controlling the mouth...is the heart ! Our heart and innerman are directly connected to the tongue...if we fux the heart and confirm it to God's word we won't need to worry about our words.
GROOT THE TREE (1 year ago)
Yeremiah Angeles (1 year ago)
I have done that... 😐 can you help me.
Alan White (1 year ago)
Love your THINK acromny. Something I really needed to work on. Many thanks. God bless you Man and your work. Amen
Sara Nagh (1 year ago)
...& GIVE them BACK TO GOD.
Good advice!
Sara Nagh (1 year ago)
THINK B4 popping off.😒
YeshuaJesusisking V (1 year ago)
My sister is 16 and Im 13. She always makes fun of me and says dirty jokes, how do I correct her or not do it with her? Especially when what she says hurts me. Its a lot harder than it may sound. How do I (the younger one) be the role model. Also, I'm saved by grace through faith and she is not. Any advice? :/
Andrew (7 months ago)
@CMo I would like to show you this. Luke 14:33 "So likewise, whosoever he be of you that forsaketh not all that he hath, he cannot be my disciple." Luke 12:33-34 "[33] Sell that ye have, and give alms; provide yourselves bags which wax not old, a treasure in the heavens that faileth not, where no thief approacheth, neither moth corrupteth. [34] For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." Matthew 6:19-21 "[19] Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: [20] But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: [21] For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." Matthew 6:24-34 "[24] No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. [25] Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? [26] Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? [27] Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? [28] And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: [29] And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. [30] Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith? [31] Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? [32] (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. [33] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. [34] Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof." Matthew 28:19-20 "[19] Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost: [20],Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world. Amen." John 14:15 "If ye love me, keep my commandments." John 14:21, 23-24 "[21] He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. [23] Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him. [24] He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me." John 6:27 "Labour not for the meat which perisheth, but for that meat which endureth unto everlasting life, which the Son of man shall give unto you: for him hath God the Father sealed." We must obey Jesus, as Christians. Stop working for money, for the food and drink that perishes! Did Jesus work for money? Did Paul? Did Peter? Did John? No, and for those that had done it, like Peter, they left all and followed Jesus. We *need* to do this too. Matthew 7:21 "Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven." Matthew 6:24 "No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon." Quit your job and work for God! He *commands* us to do this! Our eternal destination depends greatly on this thing.
CMo (1 year ago)
This was me growing up. Stay strong and true to your faith. You must lead/ show the example. It gets tough. Family is the hardest obstacle when you are a lone Christian. My own mother resented and abused me but she couldn't break me.... now nobody can, I'm stronger than most because of that. You will see it later in life. God bless you
MixingMachine (1 year ago)
Jesus Freak sorry for a late reply. 1. Pray for her! Very important. Please pray for her. Talk to her about. I know it may be nerve-wracking, but remember she's your sister. Talk to her. Tell her what may happen if she doesn't go to the word.
YeshuaJesusisking V (1 year ago)
Do you think this will help people take me more seriously about Jesus?
G Maduro (1 year ago)
Can i get an AMEN?
dream 28 (4 months ago)
Kenny Chan (4 months ago)
How about an amen and a thumbs up?
Paige b (1 year ago)
Raquel Gutierrez (1 year ago)
G Maduro ok... AMEN
YeshuaJesusisking V (1 year ago)
G Maduro amen
Jael Chocolate (2 years ago)
Actually you missed a big one. Vows and promises. See Numbers 30 and Jesus' command not to vow at all.
Queenie7 (2 years ago)
speak Lord,(have mercy on me)im listening....help me Jesus i pray😢😔😊🤗
Bhagyavathi M (2 years ago)
I watched this right after outbursting with anger Through this video God talked to me..We are created in God's image so our words should be Holy and blessing to others..Thank you brother God bless you and continue to teach you more and more..
miss kay (2 years ago)
Excellence Baby (2 years ago)
Thanks man of God I really need to saturate myself in God's word please pray for me because I need to love and let my mouth glorify God. It's hard because of the flesh.☝🏾️😪😢😭
Naturallyti (2 years ago)
I am so ecstatic that I've found your channel lol.
Angela Mergist (10 months ago)
Me too! :) God is good!
Queenie7 (2 years ago)
BlogWithTK we claim it in Jesus name,amen.
Naturallyti (2 years ago)
THE BEAT by Allen Parr Yes. I'm watching several videos daily. I like the delivery, very digestible. Please stay interactive with this channel as it grows. Wishing you much success and blessings also to your subscribers 🙏
THE BEAT by Allen Parr (2 years ago)
Hey BlogWithTK! Thanks so much for sharing that. I too am so excited about what God is doing on this channel and more specifically, in this BEAT community we have created. I think you'll find the videos helpful, encouraging and convicting as well. I look forward to engaging more with you on some of the other videos. Take care,
Shiro Neko (2 years ago)
deffinetly need too stop cursing and outbursts of angry i cant control it the game i play pisses me off
Angela Mergist (10 months ago)
Maybe you should stop playing the game Joneagleboy :)
YeshuaJesusisking V (1 year ago)
Jonathan Jacob Rodriguez You don't have to stop playing the game. But when you notice you start cussing, pause it get some water, and then go back to it. Remember this war is not against flesh and blood-Hannah
Kyla Tolbert (1 year ago)
Jonathan Jacob Rodriguez maybe try not to play that game. If anything (big or small) causes you to separate from God then cut it off. God wouldn't want to hear profane language coming from one of his children's mouths
Serite Ross (2 years ago)
It's a struggle alright. Some habits dont go down easily.
THE BEAT by Allen Parr (2 years ago)
Lol, I understand that actually. I struggled with that when I was a teenager too!
natyuruguaya (2 years ago)
THank you for this video! Could you add to your videos subtitles in spanish?
THE BEAT by Allen Parr (2 years ago)
I really need to and others have asked. Thank you for reminding me. Let me see if I can do that.
Joyce Choy (2 years ago)
Very very good video sharing. It really enlighten me.
TheNinjaCow1 MO (2 years ago)
I love your videos they help me out! I needed this because I'm having trouble controling what I say.
John Swope (1 year ago)
Show me how to have sex with a woman
THE BEAT by Allen Parr (2 years ago)
It is a continual struggle for ALL of us. Trust me! Thank you for sharing!
Janice Lowe (2 years ago)
Thank you Mr. Parr, I needed this. I've noticed in my corrective criticism isn't going over so well if my tone isn't in tune. appreciate the reminder, thanks.
Andrew (7 months ago)
Matthew 23:8-10 "[8] But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren. [9] And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven. [10] Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ." Mr. is derived from Master, which Jesus said not to call people.
THE BEAT by Allen Parr (2 years ago)
Amen, you're welcome Janice
Roberto and friends (2 years ago)
Thank you for this video,thanks for all your video!
THE BEAT by Allen Parr (2 years ago)
Thanks Elena!

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